We all want to be happy, but very few of us have really thought how and what to do differently to really feel happy.
Psychologist Sonya Lubomirski asked this question and conducted a small study, during which important points were highlighted.
This is what happy people do differently:
Thank. At first it may seem incredible, but it does work. If you are grateful for what you already have, do it sincerely, then this positivity attracts even more positive things in your life. If you are happy with what you have, then you will be even happier, getting more. Well, if you do not appreciate the present, you can’t learn to appreciate future gifts.
Develop optimism. And it's not just about taking failures indifferently, but believing that in any case everything will be fine, that every failure is for the better, as we are not aware of everything and as a result this situation will appear to be beneficial.
They react to social comparisons and do not give in to constant doubts. This only means that unnecessary self-interest may distract us from reality and can lead to such dark corners of consciousness that are little fun. And even more, there as no need to compare yourself with someone, everyone has their own circumstances, conditions of life and their own way. To each his own!
Join charity. Helping someone is not only a useful thing for those in need, but also for the one who helps. The feeling of own importance, the feeling that if you are doing good, then life is not meaningless, allows serotonin in your body to make you happy.
Treat stress. Happy people perceive stress in the same way as those who are not happy, but they overcome it easier and faster. And it’s all because they tend to find ways to get out of the critical situation.
Forgive. Yes, those who have once experienced deep resentment know how difficult it is to get rid of it. And it does not matter how many times you tell yourself that you need to forgive. If you do not use special techniques (each has his/her own: going to church, meditation, charity, etc.), it's not so easy. But happy people tend to return to their joyful sense of life as quickly as possible and try to forget their grievances.
Develop spirituality in themselves. If you do not concentrate on yourself - as on the top of evolution, then it immediately becomes clear in your head, that there are lots of amazing things around us, more significant and stronger than ourselves, but it is the feeling of belonging to this amazing life that makes us happier.
Take care of their own body. Yes, a sound mind in a sound body. It is good health that helps us enjoy the beauty of life. In addition, it has been scientifically proven that physical exercises help to cope with depressive moods no worse than antidepressants.